If so, please complete the following checklists prior to our session, for discussion:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MR4-W6h1R6Q Surfing Stress: Kevin Polk
The Myers Briggs Personality Type Inventory is an inventory that will provide you with a quick insight into your personality style.
It can be used effectively in a relationships at home, work or in general relationships. It is very non threatenting, readable and easy to interpret.
MYERS BRIGGS WEB PAGES
http://www.humanmetrics.com/index.htm#intro (Take the inventory)
- MBTI – Personality Inventory
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- Enhancing Relationships/Intimacy
- Family of Origin
- Grief and Loss
- Stress Management
- Sacramentalize Relationships
- Community Living
- Staff Enrichment
- Sacramental Preparation
- Individuals and Families
- Clergy/Members of Religious Congregations
- Couples and Family Conflicts
- Marital Infidelity
- Relationship Enrichment
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- Diagnosis of Cancer
Lately many have received information in the mail or directly from doctors, pharmacists, or other treating providers concerning our right to privacy regarding Health Care. The following is a brief summary to help you to understand why this is taking place now and how this can directly effect you and anyone who may access services from the medical profession. The following information is not meant to serve as legal advice but rather to introduce and provide some general information that may facilitate your understanding of federal regulations that are completely available on the internet.
There are some acronyms and definitions that you will need to know:
|Health Insurance Portability and Accountability Act
|Protected Health Information
|Treatment, Payment, Operations
|Privacy Officer (Every practice must name a person who is responsible to oversee and implement the HIPAA regulations.)
|(Please note that NOT all providers are “Covered Entities.” )Covered entities are those providers whose practices, policies and procedures meet certain criteria that would subject them to follow the laws presented in the HIPAA regulations regarding privacy practices, etc. (e.g. all practices that do electronic billing must be HIPAA compliant)
|Notices of Privacy Practices (Each practice that is subject to HIPAA regulations must give their consumers a detailed notice (NPP) which describes how medical information about you may be used and disclosed and how you can get access to this information.
HIPPA became a federal regulation in 1996. It began when healthcare providers began doing electronic billing to the insurance companies through the internet. A concern grew that consumers’ information could be accessed if the provider and the insurance companies did not take proper measures to secure the information. Thus, to protect the consumers’ privacy, a whole set of regulations have been evolving since that time.
The following is a sample of a section of one provider’s policy (NPP) notifying consumers of their rights.
|YOUR RIGHTS REGARDING YOUR PHI:
You have the following rights regarding PHI we maintain about you. To exercise any of these rights, please submit your request in writing to our Privacy Officer (___________)
If you believe we have violated your privacy rights, you have the right to file a complaint in writing with our Privacy Officer at [Inserted Name and Contact Information] or with the Secretary of Health and Human Services at 200 Independence Avenue, S.W. Washington, D.C. 20201 or by calling (202) 619-0257. We will not retaliate against you for filing a complaint .
If you have any questions, you could access more information at the following web sites:
In dealing with conflicts that arise as people/groups/communities struggle to enhance their relationships, the suggestions of psychotherapist, John Gottman, Ph.D, are particularly noteworthy. Dr. Gottman notes that there are four predictors of failures in relationships: criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling.
CRITICISM: Complaints are common and are to be expected in relationships. A complaint will address a specific action of another person. However, when a complaint becomes a judgment or condemnation, a negative attack on the personality or the character of another, the criticism contributes to a very unhappy and unproductive environment. Individuals who are preoccupied with these destructive behaviors make it difficult for either party to feel love and friendship. Criticism should be avoided realizing that it can potentially lead to the other three, more lethal liabilities.
CONTEMPT: Contempt, the most deadly of the four horsemen, serves only to fuel anger and hostility in a partner/group/community. When contempt overpowers a person, it often conveys hatred, leaving no room in one’s heart for genuine love, tenderness and kindness. According to Gottman, a conversation becomes contemptuous when a person uses hostile humor, sarcasm and cynicism. Eye rolling, name-calling, mockery and sneering are typically contemptuous as they serve to demean the other person. Contempt moves to an even more serious level when it becomes belligerence, an anger-induced threat or provocation intended to intimidate others. In either case contempt or belligerence detracts from respect that is a foundation of a meaningful relationship.
DEFENSIVENESS: Research shows that defensiveness, a form of blaming the other person, merely serves to escalate a conflict. The parties step on a treadmill, and an attack/defend mode goes into motion unless one person is willing to accept responsibility for his/her piece in the problem. Defensiveness surfaces when an individual is criticized or is feeling the partner’s contempt. This type of negative attribution will detract from a fondness and admiration system that should prevail in meaningful relationship systems.
STONEWALLING: The fourth horseman develops as a result of the other three. When these three become fixtures in the relationship, one party often distances or shuts down completely. The stonewaller often looks for an “out,” not just in the conflict but in the commitment to the partnership/community. Gottman proposes the following to replace the horsemen: Instead of criticizing, complain without suggesting that one’s partner is somehow defective. Instead of defensiveness, accept responsibility for a part of the problem. Instead of contempt, create a culture of praise and pride. Instead of stonewalling, self-soothe, give the listener feedback, and stay emotionally connected.
Refer to John Gottman’s The Seven Principles of Making a Marriage Work, and Clinical Manual for Marital Therapy
Submitted by: Sharon White, SSJ, D.Min, LCSW
Settle for disorder in lesser things for the sake of order in greater things; and therefore be content to be discontent in many things. – Anonymous
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Submitted by: Sharon White, SSJ, D.Min. LCSW